Beginner’s Guide: the best anal toy for your first try – safe and pleasurable options

Picture this moment – you lead, your body speaks

It’s a calm evening. Phone on silent, soft lights. You’re curious – maybe a little nervous too. That’s completely normal. The first step isn’t a perfect performance, but a gentle introduction to a new sensation. In this guide you’ll get clear answers: which toy suits a first try, how to prepare, and how to enjoy without pain or rush.

At Hotlips.fi, we’ve helped tens of thousands of Finns find the right first toy for them. 2-year warranty, discreet next-day delivery, and a 365-day return for unopened products give you a solid backrest – you focus on pleasure.

Why your first anal toy can be the year’s best discovery

• A gentle way to get to know your body: small, beginner-friendly shapes keep control in your hands.
• Expands your pleasure: a gentle pressure and a sense of fullness can intensify orgasms solo and together.
• Calms the mind: when you know what you’re doing – the right material, shape, and lube – tension turns into confidence.

A safe start: three ground rules beginners actually need

1. Choose a flared base: a wide base keeps the toy outside and makes removal easy – this is non-negotiable.
2. Start small and soft: small diameter & smooth surface = easier to relax and listen to your body.
3. Use plenty of lube: the anus doesn’t self-lubricate – a thick, water-based anal lube is a beginner’s best friend. (Note: avoid silicone lubes with silicone toys to keep the surface intact.)

Tip: If you want a “sure starter set” right away, combine a small silicone plug with a thick water-based anal lube. Flirts Pink Silicone Anal Plug 8.5 cm + EasyGlide Anal Lubricant (thick & long-lasting).

Which anal toys suit beginners? (small, soft, easy to use)

Small silicone plugs – the gentlest start

A smooth surface, flexible material, and tapered tip make insertion controlled. When it feels good, stay there – pleasure doesn’t come from rushing.

• Flirts Pink Silicone Anal Plug 8.5 cm – small diameter, wide base, an extremely easy first plug. A beginner favorite.
• Blush Novelties Jolly Plug – soft and safe, a great “first feel” without pain.

Flexible and stretching options

If you want a slightly longer yet still soft sensation, flexible models give room to play – your body sets the pace.

• Blush Novelties B Yours – blue & flexible – a flexible shaft makes it easy to get used to different depths.
• Blush Novelties B Yours – lilac – smooth surface and beginner-friendly shape help you relax.

Craving a different feel: metal & weight

Weight and coolness bring a very different sensation. Keep sizes small at first and always use plenty of lube.

• Dream Toys Metal Anal Plugs, 3 pcs (multicolour) – the set includes a small size for your first try, and you can progress calmly as your body adapts.

Getting ready for your first try – step by step

1. Create a calm moment: warm shower, soft lighting, no interruptions. It’s easier to relax when your mind is at ease.
2. Warm up externally: massage outside with your fingers or the plug’s tip, add lube – feel, don’t perform.
3. Stop at a pleasant sensation: insert only the tip, breathe deeply. If your body tenses, back up a little and continue only when relaxation returns.
4. Add more lube along the way: especially a thick, water-based anal lube works well (non-sticky, easy to re-apply).
5. Remove calmly: don’t yank. A small twist and slow withdrawal make removal comfortable.

Recommendation: EasyGlide Anal Lubricant – the thick texture stays with you and doesn’t dry out mid-play.

Hygiene and cleaning – cornerstones of safe use

General cleaning

Always wash your toy before and after use with warm water and mild, fragrance-free soap or a dedicated toy cleaner. Rinse thoroughly and dry with a lint-free towel. Store in a clean pouch or case.

Material-specific tips

• Silicone (no electronics): tolerates a few minutes of boiling occasionally for deep clean.
• Metal & glass: fully non-porous – washing is enough; you can disinfect surfaces if desired.
• Flexible/soft materials: wash carefully and avoid harsh chemicals to extend the material’s lifespan.

Frequently asked questions from beginners

Which anal toy suits a first try?

A small silicone plug with a wide base is the easiest and safest start for most. For example, Jolly Plug or Flirts 8.5 cm.

Will it hurt?

It shouldn’t. Pain signals rushing or a toy that’s too large. Pause, add more lube, and return to the point that felt good.

Which lube should I use for anal play?

A thick, water-based lube is the easiest and safest choice: EasyGlide Anal Lubricant.

Can I move up to a larger size?

Yes – once the smallest size feels easy and pleasurable throughout use. A set like Dream Toys Metal Anal Plugs (3 pcs) makes progression controlled.

Should I start alone or do I need a partner?

Starting alone is a common and great way to feel the sensations and find your own pace, after which expressing wishes to a partner is easier.

First-timer experiences – “The fear was bigger than the sensation”

“I thought it would hurt. I started with the smallest silicone plug and plenty of lube – I listened to my body. I was surprised how calm, warm pressure felt. No pain, just a new sensation.” – From our test group, S.

“The first time alone gave me confidence. When I told my partner, it was easier to proceed together. Communication + a small plug = the best start.” – From our test group, J.

Our recommendations: the best anal toys for beginners

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Summary – a small step, a big impact

The first time doesn’t require a leap of faith – just a small decision to start gently. A small silicone plug + thick lube + your own pace = a safe and pleasurable beginning.

If you need help choosing, reply to this guide with your question. We’ll help you find the sensation that suits you – without rush and without judgment.